You may wonder how setting boundaries will help improve your 2024 year.
Think of boundaries as an invisible fence that protects you and has a gate that you control. Everyone has boundaries but not everyone has the same boundaries. You want your boundaries to work for you rather than inhibiting you.
Setting boundaries puts you in control of your space and time.
Boundaries and space
Your home is your special space and your refuge. Think of your home as a container. Set boundaries so that everything in that container has a place. The cabinets and shelves hold your items so that things do not overflow onto countertops or the floor. Your closets and your drawers are your containers for clothes. By setting boundaries on how much you bring into your house, you manage to keep your house a welcoming place to come home to.
Everyone needs to have a space that is their own. I have an office that I can retreat to for work or just me time. In the past, I have had clients set off space for meditation and reflection. Your home may also be a shared space that you set boundaries for. Shared spaces should not be taken over by just one person. Everyone who uses that shared space should feel comfortable and safe.
Boundaries help you control your time.
Time can never be regained. It is up to us to decide how to use it. When you’re thinking about boundaries as they relate to time, ask yourself the following questions:
- How much time do we want to devote to social media or other electronics?
- How much time do we want to devote to our work?
- How many hours do we spend taking care of our home and other personal items that we maintain? How much time do we want to give to volunteer work or helping others?
- How much time do we want to spend on taking care of ourselves?
Having a plan in place to set those boundaries keeps us from mindlessly spending those precious hours.
When you set financial boundaries, you save money.
Knowing what your financial limits are for spending will prevent impulse shopping. You use your money to buy things that support your vision for the future. Boundaries help you decide how much you can spend on gifts and how much to donate to charities you want to support. We want to be generous but not to the point of putting us in an uncomfortable financial situation.
Setting boundaries is a form of self-care.
You show respect for yourself by standing firm on the boundaries that you have in place. Having boundaries and letting others know what they are will head off possible conflicts and future resentment. Letting others know your boundaries is especially true if you are changing those boundaries or setting some for the first time.
Take some time now and reflect on the boundaries you want to have in place for the new year. Write them in a journal and refer to them often until they become a part of who you are.
Happy New Year!
If you are ready to make your home a refuge or would like to tame your calendar, join Diane Quintana and me in our Clear Space For You clutter support group. The group will offer ideas, support, and gentle accountability for working on developing plans or projects.
Jonda S. Beattie, Professional Organizer owner of Time Space Organization, and co-owner of Release, Repurpose, Reorganize. She is based in the Metro-Atlanta area. As presenter, award-winning author, as well as a retired special education teacher she uses her listening skills, problem solving skills, knowledge of different learning techniques, ADHD specialty, and paper management skills to help clients.