Recently I wrote about the benefits of setting boundaries. There are all kinds of different boundaries. I believe the most important ones to set are your personal boundaries. But just how do you go about setting your personal boundaries? It’s important to be very clear with yourself about your values and priorities. Begin by making a list of all the different aspects of your life: career, family, religion, volunteering, health, recreation and so on. Decide just how much time, energy, and financial resources you want to devote to each aspect of your life. This will be your intention for boundary…
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In the past the winter solstice was celebrated by many cultures with festivals and rituals. Today there are still many who celebrate holidays that are connected to the winter solstice. The winter solstice is the shortest day of the year. After this day the days will slowly become longer as we approach winter. As the days continue to get colder, we will have more light. I like to acknowledge this reminder of our connection to the natural world. “The sun’s descent marks not just the end of another day, but a symbolic passage- a reminder that life, like the sun,…
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Do you often come to the end of your day and wonder where the day went? Are the items on your “to do” list barely touched? Maybe instead of staying focused and moving forward on your priorities, you drift from one thing to another, never finishing anything. You float through the day distracted by thoughts that pop into your brain with no sense of focus. You spend time looking for items you just used like your phone, your scissors, or even your cup of coffee. If this sounds like you, help is at hand. I have four tips to help…
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Most everyone knows that a fence or a wall set around a building is a boundary. It lets people know that when they enter, they are entering someone else’s property. Why does someone want to have personal boundaries? According to Oxford Languages a boundary is a line that marks the limits of an area. When thinking about personal boundaries, I like to think of it as having an invisible fence that protects us and that has a gate we control. Everyone has boundaries but not everyone has the same boundaries. It is important that your boundaries work for you rather…
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Basically, I am a minimalist when it comes to decorating my home. But when the Christmas holidays come around, I tend to go all out. However, each person is unique. And how we feel each year about decorating our home for the holiday can be different. It’s important to listen to yourself and decorate as much or as little as feels good. How much is enough? The year after my husband died, I was not going to mess with the tree and decorating for the holidays. Fortunately, others intervened, and that tree went up. I have one client who is…
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When something goes wrong there is often a silver lining within the problem – something that either didn’t go wrong or that worked out despite the problem. We call these things small blessings. If you can always keep a weather eye out for small blessings and then celebrate them then things may not appear so grim. Here are some tricks to help you find the silver lining in almost any situation. What else could have happened? A couple of weeks ago there was a big storm that swept through Atlanta. I had some HUGE (I do mean HUGE) branches come…
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Scattered thoughts can make you feel confused and out of sorts. In fact, they can totally disrupt your day and prevent you from getting anything done. When you have so many different thought s swirling around in your head, it's hard to keep track of what you're supposed to be doing. Have you ever arrived somewhere only to realize you had no idea how you got there? Have you ever laid something down and a few minutes later have no idea where it is? Have you had a conversation with someone and later have no idea of the main points…
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